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Nikada neću biti kao mama!
Ja neću biti kao ti tata!
Mene moja deca neće mrzeti...

Laž. Laž. Laž. Laž. LAŽ.

Krenimo od biologije. Zapravo, genetike. Vi ćete biti kao vaši roditelji, kraj bilo kakve diskusije. Ipak, vaši su geni u pitanju, ako ništa drugo, fizičke osobine su im zagarantovane. Tako da, okanite se tih praznih tinejdžerskih rečenica iz loših komercijalnih tinejdžerskih američkih filmova.

Psihologija. Uloge, učenje po modelu itd. Jednostavno, ako odrastate u porodici gde tata pere suđe, a mama popravlja cevi, shvatićete da nema muških i ženskih poslova. U slučaju da ste vaspitani veoma liberalno, tome ćete i vi težiti. Čak ćete razviti, odnosno, poprimiti iste grimase vaših roditelja ili ćete se na isti način ponositi svojim detetom, koristeći iste rečenice prilikom toga. Ne možete pobeći od okoline, očigledno.


Ponekad samu sebe uhvatim kako sam pljunuta mama dok grdim brata ili kako sam isti tata dok slušam neke ljude. I mrzim sebe jer želim da budem nešto novo, da izmislim novi način, da budem skroz drugačija osoba. Zapravo samo sebe zavaram, kao i većina.

Imaću iste bore od smejanja kao moja mama, biću isto toliko nervozna kao moj tata, podržavaću muža dok grdi decu kao što moji roditelji rade. I deca će me mrzeti jedno vreme. Tada ću znati da sam apsolutno dobar roditelj. I da će moja deca odrasti u takve ljude. I imaću fino vaspitane unuke.

Cats in the Cradle

A child arrived just the other day,
He came to the world in the usual way.
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay.
He learned to walk while I was away.
And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew,
He'd say, I'm gonna be like you, dad.
You know I'm gonna be like you.

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
When you coming home, dad? I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then.

My son turned ten just the other day.
He said, Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play.
Can you teach me to throw? I said, Not today,
I got a lot to do. He said, That's ok.
And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed,
Said, I'm gonna be like him, yeah.
You know I'm gonna be like him.

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
When you coming home, dad? I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then.

Well, he came from college just the other day,
So much like a man I just had to say,
Son, I'm proud of you. Can you sit for a while?
He shook his head, and he said with a smile,
What I'd really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys.
See you later. Can I have them please?

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
When you coming home, dad? I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then.

I've long since retired and my son's moved away.
I called him up just the other day.
I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind.
He said, I'd love to, dad, if I could find the time.
You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kid's got the flu,
But it's sure nice talking to you, dad.
It's been sure nice talking to you.
And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me,
He'd grown up just like me.
My boy was just like me.

And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
When you coming home, dad? I don't know when,
But we'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then.

Gledajući svoju omiljenu seriju, naletela sam na ovu pesmu, odnosno, proguglovala sam je. Eto, korist od stalnog gledanja jedne epizode.